Self-Responsibility, Empowerment & Psychic Gifts
My role as an intuitive coach and psychic channel is to empower self-responsibility, not encourage someone to be dependent on the guidance I channel.
Please read that again. Breathe. Now, read on…
In the first 10 years of my work, I taught people how to engage their intuition, put themselves at the center of their lives, and trust themselves and the guidance they receive. Teaching these skills is like the old adage of “teaching them to fish” – by recognizing the ways in which our inner wisdom reveals itself, we recognize that we have all the answers we need inside of us.
As we embrace this truth, we release another layer of victim consciousness. With an inner wisdom connected to the larger Universe, we no longer rely on something external to tell us the right thing to do. We know and trust that aspect is supporting us in living our fullest expression - whether we understand the guidance or not.
I think of learning these skills as shedding a layer of codependency and people-pleasing. By listening, considering, researching, talking it through with others, and then acting, the power of choice remains within me. It’s personal empowerment in action.
As a recovering codependent, encouraging someone to be dependent on what I channel can be an unconscious way of feeding my people-pleasing and codependent tendencies.
It can be a way of putting myself at the center of their life, believing that they need me and the information I provide to make good decisions, to thrive. A way to boost my ego at their expense.
Twenty years ago, when my psychic channeling and energy healing gifts first came in, I believed I was special and had special information to share. Despite many years of recovery from codependency, I started sharing it all the time, with everyone I met. I was boundaryless in a way I had learned to not be in my day-to-day human life. This is called spiritual bypassing - using spiritual gifts as an excuse for bad behavior.
I will never forget a conversation with a 12-step friend about her recently adopted dog. She was sharing some challenges they were having and rather than simply listening to her, I started scanning the dog, telling her what was going on with him and how to resolve it. Shortly afterwards, she ended the conversation. The next day, she asked me not to provide information about her or her dog without first asking permission.
It was a life-changing lesson in psychic boundaries. It showed me how easy it is to engage in spiritual bypassing, even for those like me who are dedicated to personal development and spiritual growth. Today, I live by the principle that providing guidance or channeled information without being asked or given permission is a boundary violation. In the same way it’s a boundary violation to offer unsolicited advice or opinions to friends and strangers.
Many of the folx I work with now are competent, strong, self-aware humans with a strong sense of intuition and their own unique spiritual practice. They receive guidance from a variety of sources using a variety of tools, and often schedule appointments when they feel confused, overwhelmed, and disconnected from their knowing.
The work we do together is threefold:
Clear out the emotional, psychic, and mental clutter.
Expand the field of “vision” so they can fill in gaps with information and awareness they may not be seeing on their own.
Empower them to consider all that they sense and make decisions from that expanded awareness.
At no point do I, Emilah, claim to know what’s best for them,
although often the guidance that comes through me is an option that would offer alignment and freedom.
Whether they choose to act on that guidance or not, they are welcome back for another shame-free session. There is learning, progress, grace, and awareness in ANY decision we make (or don’t make:-). Making choices and living out the consequences is an important part of our human experience.
A friend was curious about having a session with me and wondered how I navigated friendship and my work. A very good question, I think! The short answer is, I lean on the principles below:
When I’m having a conversation with friends, I don’t open a channel. I reserve that for paid gigs. Instead, I show up as the empathic, intuitive, HSP, psychologically aware human that I am.
If I do get a glimpse of something, I ask if they want my sense of it rather than simply spewing whatever shows up. I’m not “hooked up” to their Soul, Higher Self, etc. like I am in session, but I do have a subtle nervous system and things can leak in.
I keep confidentiality like a therapist or counselor. I don’t let on that I have had a session with someone when I see them.. If they bring it up, that’s OK. If someone mentions that so-and-so had a session with me, I try not to affirm or deny it.
I provide specific strategies clients can use to check in with me, rather than launching in during a social encounter.
I don’t typically recall the details of what I channel unless I step into the channeling space again. Information moves through me, as me. It may seem like Emilah is providing the information, but you can be sure there’s a co-mingling of energies going on and my personality is only a small part of that.
