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Emilah & Intuition

How did you become an intuitive?
I have been an empath all of my life…that means I have been able to sense and experience other people’s emotions since I was born. In the late 1990’s I began doing yoga and meditating—this increased my abilities to sense what other people were experiencing.

In 2004 the volume got turned up considerably!

I was driving home from work and my car was broadsided by a large van. The car flipped onto its roof and spun in circles before coming to a stand-still. When I opened my eyes, I was hanging upside-down from my seat belt. While I had no cuts or broken bones, my entire structure had shifted. My brain had been shaken and stirred!

Shortly after this, I found myself able to hear, see, feel and experience the unseen world. I began to communicate with animals, plants, crystals, enlightened masters, ghosts, etc. My hands began transmitting healing energy. When confronted with a situation or asked a question, I would simply “know” the answer.

This was all a little freaky at first, but with the help of Deborra Sanders, a shaman and healer in her own right, I began to navigate the waters of clairsentience, clairaudience, and clairvoyance.

I am primarily clairsentient, which means that information comes through me kinesthetically, then is translated by my brain into language. The flow of information and the translation is initiated by the questions you ask me and the information you provide me.

How did you intentionally grow your intuition?
I worked with Deborra (and others) for several years to stabilize my neural networks, which had been altered in the car “accident”. I had experienced what is commonly referred to as a mild traumatic brain injury.

During this time, I learned how to:
    • set and hold energetic boundaries (so I wasn’t bombarded by other people’s experiences and information!);
    • read a person’s energy field, emotional body, and sacred geometry;
    • set my ego/personality aside to read more accurately and clearly;
    • articulate the information I receive in ways that others can understand and act on;
    • regulate the healing energy that comes through my hands (turning it on and off), and understand it (sensing what changes in color or frequency mean);
    • energetically protect both myself and those I work with;
    • communicate with guides, enlightened masters, angels, and other beings—in or out of form;
    • choose homeopathic remedies and create flower essence mixes—for myself and my clients;
    • trust what I see, hear, feel and experience—and act on it;
    • move through the fear of being ostracized or judged for having these gifts;
    • align with the highest good of the Universe;
    • and do all of the above when working with people anywhere—face-to-face or at a distance!
In addition, I read a lot of books about ascension, enlightenment, intuitive and psychic development, manipulating energy, and self-care for healers. Books (language) can activate knowing within me and helps me understand and integrate the experiences I have.

I also worked through many karmic issues; this increased my capacity to be present to myself and others, and to hold embodied empathic space.

Do you have a guru or a teacher?
I have had many teachers; some I have learned from in-person, some on the inner planes. A sampling includes:
    • Deborra Sanders
    • Dr. Vasant Lad
    • Chitra Giauque
    • Jessie Ayani
    • Swami Sivananda (I considered him my guru for a while, even though he is no longer embodied)
    • Sanat Kumara (an Ascended Master said to be the Ancient of Days or as I affectionately call him “the dude in charge of earth’s evolution”.
    • Zoe (she is clearly an enlightened master in a golden retriever’s body!)
    • Life itself, especially nature
The following people influenced me through their writings & products:

Emilah & Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

What is NVC?
Nonviolent Communication:Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence: the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart.

NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature, and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same basic human needs, and that each of our actions is a strategy to meet these needs.

People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in communication, increased understanding, deepening connection, and resolution of conflicts in their lives.

The NVC community is active in over 65 countries around the globe. Find out more about how NVC is changing the world and how you can get involved.

Why did you learn NVC?
Having done huge amounts of personal growth work, cultivated a spiritual practice, and experienced an intense spiritual awakening, I had access to the experience of nonviolence on a meta-level. But I wasn’t doing such a good job of living it, particularly in my self-talk and communication with others.

A friend of a friend introduced me to a local NVC trainer who had also attended the Ayurvedic Institute. We became fast friends. I took an NVC Intro class from her and really “got” how NVC could help me put language to my emotions and subtle body experiences; making communication with myself and others more compassionate.

What NVC training have you had?
I learned NVC primarily through immersion, with a few workshops and a long-term empathy group thrown in for good measure.

Participating in an Empathy/Practice Groupsince 2008 has been and continues to be a foundational piece of my learning; as was being a board member for NM NVC, a non-profit, from 2008-2010.

Another foundational piece was my work with the International Intensive Trainings (IITs). In 2008, I began working with Jacob Gotwals on the local organizing team for CNVC-sponsored 9-day IITs. Between 2008 and 2011, I was on the team for twelve IITs; in 2010 as co-organizer with Jacob and in 2011 as the lead organizer. The certified trainers on staff had a profound and lasting impact on my capacity to learn and live NVC. They include, in no particular order, Kathleen Macferren, Dow Gordon, Rodger Sorrow, Martha Lasley, Raj Gill, Doug Dolstad, and Barbara Larson.

The icing on the cake? In 2009, I began dating Jacob who, at the time, was an CNVC Certified Trainer. We began our relationship using NVC to deepen connection and resolve conflict. We were married in 2010. One of the reasons I specialize in working with couples to integrate NVC into their relationship is that I’ve lived it in my own relationship and have experienced the challenges as well as the joys of doing so.

How do you use NVC in your Intuitive Coaching practice?
I enjoy working with people who already know NVC, people who have attended one or more workshops or intensives and want to integrate NVC consciousness more fully into their lives. I don’t offer basic NVC training; you can find people who do here.

With clients, I enjoy exploring and using NVC consciousness (or needs consciousness) as a foundation for self-connection, decision making, and communication. My focus includes teaching and modeling self-empathy and empathy for others, sensing feelings in order to identify universal needs that are met or unmet, and learning to savor needs to allow strategies that serve life organically emerge. From this heart-centered place of self-acceptance clients are more spacious and open; able to see and choose strategies that are life-serving.

I especially enjoy exploring with clients how using NVC can support and transform intimate relationships (with themselves and others) and sexual expression.

Are you a CNVC Certified Trainer?
No. I receive my certifications and credentials from the coaching profession.

Emilah’s Pathway to Coaching

What did you do before you started doing intuitive work?
My life prior to becoming an intuitive coach was strongly influenced by academia (See my LinkedIn profile for details). After graduating from Clarkson University with a B.S. in Management, I spent nine years as a college administrator. During that time, I completed a Master’s degree in Education (M.Ed.) at St. Lawrence University.

Unclear of what I wanted to do next—but clear it was time to leave northern New York—I spent a year traveling in Europe. From there, I enrolled in a Ph.D. program at The University of Arizona to study higher education administration, with a minor in women’s studies. While collecting data for my dissertation, I had a crisis in an intimate relationship. I entered therapy and 12-step recovery for codependency  and love addiction.

The next three years of my life were consumed by spiritual exploration (via Anusara Yoga, meditation, and Vedanta), healing family-of-origin issues, and developing the capacity to be both emotionally intimate and physically intimate with the same person. And I do mean consumed . . . I worked part-time and processed a lot of s*&^%t.

During this time I was blessed to be a member of a research team interviewing classical homeopaths and clients of theirs who had experienced miraculous recoveries. I was hooked, and I began working with a classical homeopath myself. These experiences helped me develop a deep understanding of energy medicine—and they both supported and hastened the therapeutic work I was doing.

I spent the summer of 2004 on retreat, at an ashram in upstate New York. While meditating in a temple there (the Cosmic Temple) I saw the face of “Mr. Clean”, felt a strong energy enter my third eye, and started writhing on the floor. Later, I came to understand that I had received shaktipat (a form of energy transmission that awakens the kundalini) from Sivananda, a guru who died in 1963 (and who also happens to look like Mr. Clean!)

Three months later, after returning home, I was in the automobile “accident” that rocked my world and opened my intuition. For more about my intuitive development, check out the questions under Emilah & Intuition.

p.s. I did not finish the Ph.D . . . I am what is unofficially called ABD (all but dissertation).

What formal education have you had?
The University of Arizona: PhD studies in Higher Education Organizational Behavior & Women’s Studies (all but dissertation completed) 1998-2001
St. Lawrence University: Master of Education – 1993
Clarkson University: Bachelor of Science in Management – 1988

What other training have you had?
Presence Based Coaching: PBC 1 & 2 – Spring 2011
International Coaching Federation (ICF): Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential – 2011
Coaching for Transformation: Certified Professional Coach (CPC) – 2010
The Ayurvedic Institute: Audited the general studies program in Ayurveda and Ayur-yoga – 2005/06
Anusara Yoga: Affiliated teacher at the 200 hr level – 2002-06
Yoga Oasis (Tucson, AZ): Teacher training requirements completed at 200 hr level in an Anusara Yoga inspired curriculum- 2001.