People Pleasing: Doubting What We Know

A few months ago I wrote a blog entitled Putting Yourself at the Center which talked about the spiritual underpinnings of making choices in our daily lives that include our needs as well as the needs of others. I have been living and teaching these tenets for years, yet the tendency to put other people at […]

Embracing Light: Having the Courage to Want

“What do you want?  If you don’t know what you want, be prepared to be depressed; it goes with the territory. Wanting takes courage.” —Marshall Rosenberg I’ve been playing around with wanting this spring and early summer; giving myself permission to want. I had forgotten how  empowering it is to want. To really listen to what […]

Cultivating Compassion in Intimate Relationships: A Practice

I am in the middle of facilitating an eight-week series entitled Relationship Building: Strengthening our Families, Partnerships and Communities here in Albuquerque.  This past week we closed our circle with a variation on a Compassion Exercise from Avatar.  Participants enjoyed it so much, I though I’d share it on my blog.  So here it is! Special thanks to Rev. Jude […]

7 Tips for Navigating Conflict in Intimate Relationships

I get suspicious of couples who say they never have conflict; that everything is always hunky dory.  The truth as I know it? Couples have conflicts.  More specifically, when the level of commitment increases in any relationship (intimate partnerships, friendships, even promotions at work), so does the level of conflict.  It’s often temporary, but it’s […]

Putting Yourself at the Center

For the last 3-4 years, I have gathered weekly with a group of women for what the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) community would call an “Empathy Group”.  Essentially, we hold space for each other to explore what’s alive in us, name the universal needs that are not met, savor them, and allow strategies to emerge that […]