Cultivating Compassion in Intimate Relationships: A Practice

I am in the middle of facilitating an eight-week series entitled Relationship Building: Strengthening our Families, Partnerships and Communities here in Albuquerque.  This past week we closed our circle with a variation on a Compassion Exercise from Avatar.  Participants enjoyed it so much, I though I’d share it on my blog.  So here it is! Special thanks to Rev. Jude […]

7 Tips for Navigating Conflict in Intimate Relationships

I get suspicious of couples who say they never have conflict; that everything is always hunky dory.  The truth as I know it? Couples have conflicts.  More specifically, when the level of commitment increases in any relationship (intimate partnerships, friendships, even promotions at work), so does the level of conflict.  It’s often temporary, but it’s […]

Putting Yourself at the Center

For the last 3-4 years, I have gathered weekly with a group of women for what the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) community would call an “Empathy Group”.  Essentially, we hold space for each other to explore what’s alive in us, name the universal needs that are not met, savor them, and allow strategies to emerge that […]

Inch by Inch

I woke up this morning humming part of  The Garden Song by David Mallett – the closing song at Betsy’s memorial service.  The song describes how by taking small steps, mulching, weeding, etc., we can make our gardens fertile ground. Betsy, my mother-in-law, was deeply connected to nature.  An avid gardener and bird-watcher, she tended […]

Winter Solstice: Light Emerging

  Ok.  I admit it.  I LIKE the holiday season.  I mean really, really like it! I play Christmas carols and sing to them, decorate the house, prepare a big Christmas dinner, snuggle by the fire with my sweetie and kitties, watch Miracle on 34th Street and other oldies but goodies.  We went to see […]